Some of us have a tendency of exaggerating our problems. Overreacting to mild headaches, common allergies and slight fever, we self-diagnose and take medication for serious health conditions that may not even plague us.
This is a dangerous practice that can make you increasingly paranoid and obsessed. But that doesn’t mean you should downplay your problems and pretend everything is fine when it isn’t.
Everyone goes through phases of grief, anger, guilt and frustration. Some are able to cope, while others struggle to make positive adjustments to big or small changes.
While therapy is an excellent way to navigate your personal problems and finding an effective solution, a sizeable number simply does not know “when” it’s okay to seek professional help.
Here are 3 signs that suggest it’s time:
1. Feeling Emotionally Overwhelmed.
Many people are reluctant to see a therapist because they feel their stress is caused by seemingly insignificant events.
Research proves that talking about our problems, no matter how small they appear to be, makes us feel better. Whether you “feel” depressed, or actually suffer from chronic anxiety and stress, anything that causes significant distress in your life is reason enough to consult a therapist.
Remember: a therapist’s focus isn’t what—it’s why.
2. Experiencing Loss.
This covers a broad spectrum of issues that include death of a loved one, divorce or serious break-up, as well as losing a job.
Bottling your emotions can warp your perception of reality, and compel you to make decisions that do not serve you well.
As the shadow of your past looms large over your present, your may discover that your actions and thoughts are still controlled by something that happened years ago.
Therapy is an outlet to process the trauma of loss, to confront painful realities and follow a path of spiritual and emotional healing.
3. Developing a Dangerous Coping Mechanism.
If you try to cope with a stressful situation by doing something in excess, you may develop an unhealthy dependence that is difficult to reverse.
Food, sex, drugs, alcohol and gambling are common coping mechanisms that may lead to addiction. Being unable to stop yourself from eating, smoking, drinking, gambling or having sexual intercourse underlies a serious psychological problem that demands attention.
Therapists offer a safe and judgment-free zone to address your deepest insecurities and fears, and address the root cause of your dependence / addiction or substance abuse.
Ultimately, speaking about your problems can allow you to experience emotional clarity and empower you to make life-affirming decisions.
Dr. David E. Myers is a licensed psychotherapist and relationship counselor, offering relationship counseling in Birmingham, Georgia, Alabama and Mississippi.
If you would like to schedule an appointment with Dr. Myers, you may reach him at (205)-251-8808.s