take care of and nurture the relationship in a balanced way while asking your partner to do the same.
Marriage and relationship counseling is a wonderful growing experience with a number of challenges. When relationships are not working, couples either seek out individual help so that they can nurture themselves or they might focus on the dynamics of the relationship. If you’re based in Birmingham, AL and are in need of a counselor to help save your relationship, I could be of help to you.
My couples work is both similar and different from individual
work. It is similar in that I would like to hear the stories of both
partners, how they both have established relationship/intimacy
patterns, and how they might use these patterns to nurture the
relationship as well as the partner. Individual work may or may
not aim for this as there might be a need for tighter boundaries.
My general aim is to preserve relationships and at the same
time, look at the possible consequences of preserving the
relationship for both partners.
This process does overlap individual work by looking at
nurturance of fondness and admiration, communication
patterns, mutual influencing, solving problems, and creating
shared meaning. Of course, being in relationship will bring up
issues that you may not be aware of while out of a relationship.
This work is most successful when both partners understand
that they both have unresolved issues, both want to be
response-able, and both see a positive outcome for the work.
There are some cases, however, where one person carries
most of the responsibility for the relationship conflict.